I think finally figured out how motivation works. This enabled me to find a way to always be and to stay motivated, whenever I need to.
I’ve kept looking for motivation in external sources – motivational quotes, people, stories. And if I find the right text/person/video I usually get my dose. Problem is it fades away pretty quickly and then I would space out until I find my way to the next dose.
This is because motivation is not the key here. And everybody looking for motivation to stay on top of their game is looking in the wrong place.
Willpower is what drives motivation. If you have willpower you can motivate yourself to do pretty much anything…quit that nasty habit, start working out, start saving or launch a rocket in space, connect 2 billion people or whatever you set your mind to.
I recently read (actually listened to) a book which stated that willpower is nothing but a habit and can be, like any other habit, harvested if you don’t have it in you.
It is created by working through the small temptations, which occur multiple times each day. Go workout, instead of lying in bed for one more hour. Order the salad, instead of the burger. Leave 5 minutes early to buy flowers for your hard working wife.
These small changes in the daily routine lead to big changes in the long run.
And key is – you no longer need outer sources to stay motivated.
How do you stay motivated?
I know this is not the most pleasant of topics, but this is the first case for me in 30 years, when I lost someone who was once very close to me and also had a great role and part in my life, so I decided to share my experience and honor my “maminka” with a longer story.
(Note to self: This whole experience and the amount of YouTube content I have been consuming lately got me thinking I would love to start shooting more video for my own archives and something like a video diary. Because I’d love to go back and reflect on what my life and experiences were before. I did several videos during a recent road trip we did around Europe and I love to go back and just check out the videos. I think it’s a wonderful hobby and a very nice practice.)
My grandmother’s name was Stefka, but we all called her “Maminka” or “Omi”, which is like calling her “second mom”, or at least that’s what it means to me.
I’m not going to go into more details about her life story. Maybe I’ll come back to that another time. I’d prefer to say more about what she meant to me and how I remember her.
She was the one who was always positive. She was the one always sending us nice gift packages, and I mean real packages coming in large boxes in the mail every big holiday when we weren’t together. And it’s something that me and my sister would always get super excited. Actually, so excited, that I once almost chopped one of my fingers off with a pair of scissors and didn’t even realize I was bleeding for a couple of minutes. She was the one who would always hug me and have deep conversations with me about what I want in life and how things are going because she really cared. She was the one who used to say to me “I love you” all the time.
I love you, Maminka! You’ll have a place in my heart forever!
I saw 50 Shades Darker with my girlfriend yesterday and I decided to share my thoughts from a guy’s POV, as I reckon that the movie will be seen mostly by girls (especially having in mind that we were only 2 or 3 guys in the whole cinema last night).
But first, let me start with a few thoughts on the original movie 50 Shades of grey. Honestly, I didn’t really like it. There were some interesting aspects, like the relationship between an almost regular (besides the 4.0 GPA) girl and a not-so-regular guy. And the fact that he had become a billionaire at a very young age, despite a difficult childhood.
But then, some parts didn’t quite make sense to me. Like for example, in the beginning of the movie when Anastasia interviews Christian, he states that he believes his success in business has been due to the fact that he is very good with people. And later we see him being rude to the guys around Ana and also doesn’t visit his stepmother, who has helped him a lot.
And then comes the sex part. I think it’s too much. Not that I’m against sex or erotic movie scenes, but it was a little too much for my taste.
So, generally, I thought the story had great potential, but the movie was a bit too shallow.
Now the second movie is quite different. The sex scenes are I think even more than in the first one, but at least it’s less kinky stuff, which makes it more pleasurable to watch.
But what I like about it is that the story was told in a more captivating manner. Christian had a much stronger character, fighting his demons and being a lot more manly than in the first movie. I actually got inspired by the character and did my first morning workout in a veeeery long time this morning. Here are the characteristics I liked the most:
- in control
- no bullshit
- obeys the law
- great shape
- great health
I think he also fit the young billionaire character much better this time and looks a lot more mature.
The soundtrack is also very nice. Not the whole thing obviously, but most of the songs are good.
I would generally recommend the movie to anyone looking for a nice, sexy story, which is told in a compelling manner.
It’s also a great idea to take your girlfriend or wife for a night out. Combine with a nice dinner and thank me later 🙂
Let me know what you guys think? Did you see it already? Like it? Didn’t like it? Let me know 🙂
Hey. Just a heads up. I haven’t posted here in a while, but I’m planning to step up my game quite a lot. I realized that I was not posting anything, just because in my head I keep fantasizing that I always have to write the perfect post. But now I think differently.
If you’re in a similar spot like I was, here’s some motivation:
The science of productivity:
Willpower is an exhaustible source! So instead of just pushing yourself to try harder try the following:
1. START!!! Studies show that starting a project is the biggest blocker to productivity.
2. FOCUS ON THE HARDEST TASKS FIRST and instead of stressing yourself to keep staying focused throughout the day, COMBINE PERIODS OF FOCUSED WORK WITH PERIODS OF REST. This way you don’t rely only on willpower and habit, but rather on discipline and scheduling. Studies show that a 90 min work session, combined with a 15-20 minute planned break is the secret formula.
3. SET A STRICT DEADLINE! Don’t forget to mark it in your calendar
4. DOCUMENT YOUR PROGRESS! Mark with keywords what you were available to complete in a certain work period.
5. STOP MULTITASKING! Make a list of what you want to accomplish on the previous day and avoid trying to complete multiple activities at once. Split your larger tasks into smaller steps to avoid congesting your mind!
Another great video from AsapSCIENCE!